6 Things You Should Never Say to Someone Who Has Cancer

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1. "I can't stop crying for you."

When Gwen, who's in her fifties, was diagnosed with breast cancer after a routine scan last January, she found telling her friends one of the hardest parts of having the illness because she didn't want to worry them:

"You realize that it's as much a shock for them as it is for you. But it's a stressful time for you, not only because of the treatment, but you have to reassure other people and that can be hard. You worry about being a burden."

Obviously it's upsetting when you find out someone you love is sick, but it's important not to overshadow your loved one's emotional journey. People with cancer often feel they have to hold it together for those around them, but it's vital that they take care of themselves, first and foremost.

Relationship Advice: Should You Admit When You’re Wrong?

By Sheiresa Ngo

Admitting that you are wrong can be very humbling. However, it is a necessary step to take if you want to remain in a relationship with whomever you have wronged. No matter how much you want to save face and refuse to admit an indiscretion, if you don’t, it’s a sure way to destroy whatever bond you’ve built.

“Many of us, including myself and my clients, feel the tug of denial because we sincerely want to be smart, helpful, good people rather than harmful people who make mistakes,” said relationship expert Laurie Puhn, J.D.

Here are some reasons why admitting to wrongdoing can be beneficial.

These Are the Baby Names That Will Totally Piss Off Your Friends to the Point of Internet Venting

by JENNY SUGAR

There's nothing sweeter than the birth of a baby, but depending on how you feel about the increase in trendy and unique baby names that tend to sport extra vowels and at least three of the letter Y, even the birth of a loved one's child could become, well . . . awkward.

Depending on your humor and how close you are to the parents of a new baby, you'll likely have to swallow the hatred for a name like Ehann (pronounced Ian) for the rest of your life — unless you're a fan of venting on the Internet. Lucky for us — and our senses of humor — Reddit users have been opening up about the worst baby names they've heard recently, and it's bringing us all together in the most hilarious way.

4 Words That Can Instantly Improve Your Relationship

by Jillian Kramer

Turns out, a bouquet of flowers or even a weekend getaway can't touch your partner's heart as much as a few simple words. That's because, our experts say, words have the ability to communicate what a gift simply can't. And because of that, whipping out a few carefully chosen words has the power to instantly change your relationship for the better.

"Words are the only real way to know what someone else is thinking and feeling," explains Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. Because while we can make assumptions based on facial expression or body language or even a gift, "words are really the only way to know for sure," she says. "They are the way we express our own thoughts and feelings so they are both powerful connectors and ways that we can feel separated."

Nine superstitions about romance that could change your love life

By Mirror

Did you know it's bad luck to buy a Russian lover an even number of roses? Oh, and if you dream of fish, your best friend is probably pregnant - she just doesn't know it yet. Love is a mind game - and if you're finding the world of dating tough, especially around Valentine's Day when all of your friends will be heading out for 'date night' - perhaps you're just not following the right rituals on your quest. Quirky gifts website Red Candy has shared nine of the most bizarre superstitions from around the world which may just help you conquer romance in 2016.

The 6 Physical Features Men Can't Resist, According to Science

By Jessica Mattern

We all know that every time a man gives us the once-over, he's probably thinking about sex. But now, science can explain why men are constantly checking us out. Turns out, there's a specific formula for their once-over. Some of it's silly, but most of it you can easily nail.

According to Business Insider, every time a men checks out a woman, he's performing a reproductive fitness assessment. Men were designed to look for key features in women. These features make women attractive because they are associated with good health and fertility. When men notice these features, they are subconsciously thinking, she could have my babies! Making them subconsciously, or very consciously, attracted to you.

Eight myths about shapes and sizes debunked

By NAIROBI NEWS

If you are an adult male or female, then you have heard countless things about the female genital anatomy.

While some of them may be true, others are complete hogwash.

Below, we separate the myths and facts about the vagina.

Octopus meat: Revered delicacy said to cure impotence TRUE OR FALSE?

By Mwangi Muraguri
There is no doubt that octopus is a revered delicacy at the Kenyan Coast.
Its demand cuts across religion, age and social backgrounds with both open air joints and high end restaurants making a tidy sum from sale of octopus soup and meat.

Those who partake of this delicacy swear it is a cure for impotence. “I have heard lactating women claim that it increases milk production as well as body stamina,” says Abdulhakim Salim, a regular consumer of the meat.

The lost art of the love letter

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By Tony Mochama

‘Darling Mommie Poo,

Feb 14 may be the date they observe and call Valentine’s Day but that is for people of only ordinary luck. I happen to have a ‘Valentine Life’ which started on March 4, 1952 and will continue as long as I have you. Therefore realising the importance of this to me, will you be my Valentine from now on and forever and ever? You see my choice is limited, a Valentine’s life or no life because I love you very much. Poppa.’

Why men are afraid to date women in this age bracket

 

By Silas Nyanchwani:

For most bachelors aged 28-36, dating can be like walking on a field full of landmines. You don’t know when next you will step on a live one. These explosives include women who want to trap you into a relationship or marriage through pregnancy.


Also, you realise soon enough the diminishing number of women who are willing to participate in a no-strings-attached arrangement.

You will note that majority women mostly want to walk you down the aisle quite forcefully. Those ready to play games come at a higher and unsustainable price. Now, I have noticed that the most dangerous group to date, if you are an eligible bachelor with disposable income, must be women who are just out of college and on their first job.

Ritualist earns beating after failed sacrifice attempt

A -32 –year- old man of Lusaka’s John-Laing Compound was almost lynched by members of the public after word went round that he abducted his two children for satanic sacrifices. Godfridah Kalumbi accused her husband Bernard Chimfwembe of tying her third pregnancy to ritual sacrifices. Kalumbi alleged that her husband sacrificed her pregnancy in exchange for wealth adding that he had once told her that he would travel to India to get rich. Kalumbi and Chimfwembe had been married for 10 years; but problems in their marriage began after two years of marriage. “We divorced last year because my husband was obsessed with riches such that he tied my pregnancy after he was advised that my unborn child was the ideal ‘candidate’. I could no longer stand Chimfwembe and the only option was divorce,” she said. “After we divorced, Chimfwembe stopped supporting the children financially and last week while I was away, he attempted to abduct them. I was fortunate that I had discovered him upon my return and I alarmed my neighbours,” she said. Chimfwembe’s attempt to exculpate himself failed as residents punched him before he was whisked away by his friends. Kalumbi accused her former husband of wanting to use their children’s body parts as ingredients for magical concoctions and charms. “I do not want this man to visit my children because he is evil. He wants to get rich by sacrificing my children but I will not allow this to happen,” he said. Meanwhile, Chimfwembe charged that his former wife (Kalumbi) was mentally deranged. “I went to visit my children and I wonder why she would accuse me of wanting to sacrifice my own children, “he wondered.

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12 Moms Describe the Most Embarrassing Thing That Happened While Giving Birth

Sure, for some women, birth is beautiful and empowering. For others, it is excruciating. Given the sweating and heavy breathing and bodily fluids and the way your body is very much on display, no one exactly describes it as glamorous. (Though, of course, it's all worth it for that sweet - if only slightly alien-­looking - baby.) Here, moms describe their most embarrassing labor and delivery moments.

Herbalist supplies prostitutes with love portion

By Nancy Malwele Women of Chibolya Compound in Eastern Province have threatened to lynch a traditional doctor for giving charms to prostitutes. Some women claimed that prostitutes in the area had taken over their marriages due to the named traditional doctor who has been selling love portions on the street. One of the women Loveness Mumbi said the traditional doctor identified as Jacobs was in the habit of selling charms to prostitutes in night clubs. “Our husbands spend time and money on prostitutes and some have gone to the extent of taking over our marriages in the area. Last week we beat up one prostitute who started cohabiting with a married man,” Mumbi said. After word went round that ‘Dr.’ Jacobs was supplying the sex workers with concoctions, the women in the area have vowed to sort him out. And Maureen Sakala narrated that she was hounded out of her matrimonial home after she caught her husband red-handed with a sex worker. “When the whole incident happened, I went to visit my relatives but when I returned home, I found him in the company of a prostitute and he ended up chasing me. The prostitute bragged that my husband loved her more than he loved me and that she would ensure that he divorces me,” she complained. She said that after one month of being on separation, her husband ended up marrying the suspected prostitute. After Sakala confronted the prostitute, she confessed having cast a spell on him which was why he was with her.

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Hair loss a combination of factors

By Nancy Malwele Hair loss at an early age in men has become a common problem nowadays. It is not only an indication of a person’s poor lifestyle but also the high amount of stress one is undergoing. Boys in their late teens and early 20s are experiencing varying degrees of hair loss and seeking medical treatment for it. A renowned surgeon Dr. Henry Krishna said baldness has its root cause in the DNA. “Some people are genetically prone to hair thinning and baldness. Many of them have one or more affected family members,” he said. Dr. Krishna said after puberty, when the male hormones testosterone starts becoming dominant, the receptors get activated and cause hair thinning and eventually baldness. He said hormones are not the only cause for hair loss saying that lifestyle and external factors also play a definitive role. Dr Chrishna further noted that having a healthy lifestyle and eating the right food is vital in as far as hair loss is concerned. “Smoking, lack of exercise and alcohol consumption are some of the factors that promote premature hair loss. Smoking is the single most important factor which accelerates hair loss as nicotine damages the blood vessels of hair roots,” he said. He said that drinking plenty of water and juices was a way of maintaining good protein. He said people who over consume proteins are also prone to hair loss as is the case with body builders.

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5 Tips to Help You Get Over Your Ex

Let’s face it: Breakups are really hard. It may be difficult to say farewell and move on, but the worst thing you can do following a split? Staying in contact with your ex. That is where things get a little bit sticky. Staying in touch is understandable — you’re used to having the other person around — but remaining in contact almost always leads to additional heartache.

So if the relationship is over — and we mean really over — here are some tips to help you avoid a post-breakup backslide into your ex’s arms.

6 Reasons Why a Man Falls Out of Love

Falling in love is one of the most amazing feelings in the world. Falling out of love, on the other hand, can be one of the worst. And it begs the questions: What causes us to fall out of love? If your feelings for your partner have started to fade and you’re wondering why, these 6 reasons might help shed some light on the situation.

1. You realize that you and your partner are incompatible

What Is The Japanese Secret To Living Longer?

Did you realize that over 50,000 people in Japan live to be over 100 years of age based on a study conducted by La Trobe University in Melbourne, Australia? So, wouldn’t it be nice to know their secret? Well now you can learn some valuable tips that the people from the “land of the rising sun” have known for many years. This article will explore three main components of the Japanese culture regarding diet, emotional health, and exercise.

I. Japanese Diet
The typical Japanese person consumes around 25% fewer calories when compared to societies in the western part of the globe. This is very interesting due to a study conducted at the University of Florida Medicine College which found that reducing the caloric intake of rats by only 8% extended their lifespan and helped to deter the negative effects on their liver function and overall health. Thus, here is a list of some of the common foods and drinks that the Japanese include in their diets:

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Best ages to have sex, be healthy and wealthy

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Researchers who carried out a detailed investigation into the key milestone years of life, also found we are most body confident when we are 31 - but doing the best in our careers at the age of 38.

Other major moments in our lives include being the most content in our relationship at the age of 40 and earning our dream salary two years later at 42.

Bishop Allan Kiuna: Why you should be humble

Amongst the world’s billionaires is a small group that fascinates me a great deal. Though filthy rich, this little circle of tycoons leads a very simple life. Some of them like Ingvar Kamprad, whose net worth is $3 billion, has continually shown little interest in the trappings of wealth.

He still prefers to fly economy and for many years, drove a simple Volvo until he was convinced it was no longer safe. Chuck Feeney, who has given away more than $4 billion to disadvantaged children and public health initiatives, all while going to great lengths to remain an anonymous donor, is another example. He has a personal motto: “I set out to work hard, not get rich.”

5 energy boosting foods you should add to your day

We all know that feeling, 3 p.m. rolls around and we get that midday crash. But we don’t need to reach for energy drinks or high calorie bars. Beat that midday slump without breaking the diet by using one of the tips below:

The 1 Thing Happy Couples Do Every Day

My entire life, I've been surrounded by successful relationships. My parents are just as in love with one another as the day they met. My grandparents will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary this month. My best friend has lived with her boyfriend in Sweden for years. So what do all of these very different unions have in common?
To get to the bottom of it, I asked many couples why they think their relationships work. Everyone listed off a few different reasons, but they all stated one fact that was the same: they talk to their significant others. I mean really talk to each other and hear what their partners have to say. So what do all content couples do every day? It's very simple.

MY WEEKEND: What would you do if you only had six months to live?

By CAROLINE NJUNG'E

 

A couple of weeks ago, I read an interesting story about a man who was diagnosed with stomach cancer and told that he had only six months to live. He was devastated. Doctors say that the food we eat and our lifestyles have something to do with the development of the disease in some cases.

US man gets 40 years in jail for sexually abusing children at Kiambu orphanage

A United States judge on Monday handed down a 40-year sentence to a former Christian missionary previously found guilty of raping children at a Kenyan orphanage.

“These were heinous crimes committed on the most vulnerable victims,” Judge David Russell declared in imposing the sentence.

“He was their worst nightmare come true," the judge added in regard to Matthew Lane Durham, 21, who had claimed he was possessed by an “inner demon.”

How to Get Past Major Setbacks in Your Relationship

You spend days, months, and years building your relationship to create a space between you and your partner that is as healthy as possible. Everything goes well, until it doesn’t. Setbacks happen to the best relationships and the most perfect couples. Whether it’s an affair, dealing with death, depression, loss of job, pregnancy (or lack of), or even just a simple loss of trust, suddenly that connection that took so much time to create may be severed, flipping your relationship on its head. The trust you felt between you and your partner may be replaced with doubt and hurt. Anger may take the place of the love you felt just days before.

Unfortunately, setbacks are inevitable. They happen. A loss of trust, experiencing intense loss, hardship, or a changed perspective all have the power to ruin relationships between two people who still truly love each other. What matters is the way you respond to life’s inevitable setbacks and the manner in which you are able to move on. 

People with anxiety may be hard-wired to see world differently

By Lisa Rapaport

(Reuters Health) - People with anxiety may not be able to distinguish between neutral and threatening stimuli as well as individuals without this mental health condition, a small study suggests.

Researchers designed a sound experiment to explore the brain’s “plasticity,” or its ability to change and respond to new situations. These changes influence how the brain reacts to stimuli and whether the person is able to distinguish between safe or dangerous circumstances, said lead author Rony Paz of the Weizmann Institute of Science in Rehovot, Israel.

The toughest countries to be a girl revealed

Chat show queen Oprah Winfrey, actress Meryl Streep and singer Elton John called on Monday for world leaders to put girls at the heart of anti-poverty efforts as a new index revealed Niger was the toughest country to be a girl. In an open letter, published on the eve of International Women's Day, a host of prominent figures urged leaders to improve girls' and women's access to education, justice and technology and help them fight HIV and malnutrition. They said it was "an outrage" that girls make up three-quarters of all new HIV infections among adolescents in Africa and that 40 percent of women on the continent suffer from anaemia which results in a fifth of maternal deaths.

Panic at 34,000ft after pilot has a heart attack and dies in cockpit

Saudi Arabia: A pilot died at the controls of his plane's cockpit after suffering from a massive heart attack mid-flight. Up to 220 passengers were said to be on board the Saudi Arabian Airlines flight SV 1734 when the plane's captain Waleed bin Mohammed Al-Mohammed died mid-journey.

Woman forced into prostitution by hubby

By Nancy Malwele A woman of Chanida in Eastern Province has abandoned her polygamous husband of two years after he forced her into prostitution and lived off her earnings. Marian Mbewe 30, a mother of two, told the New Vision that her husband Tungani Zulu forced her into prostitution saying that he often used to beat her up when she refused to engage in sexual acts with other men.

How to Handle a Guy Who Ignores Your Texts

The instant nature of text messages makes it easy to expect immediate responses. Because people may not always be available to respond quickly to a text message, a wise sender practices patience while waiting for a response. This is especially important in a relationship. Use care as you handle a guy who ignores your texts. He may have a variety of different reasons for not responding.

10 Dark Parenting Truths We Never Talk About

Two newly expectant parents recently asked my husband and me for advice about becoming parents. At first, we spoke to some of the lighter, more common truths about having babies—the sleepless hours, the blowout diapers, the potential relinquishing of one's hours to rocking, holding, changing, cleaning, worrying, wearing pajamas, eating takeout and watching binge-worthy TV. (This last part isn't so bad, so long as the baby isn't wailing.)

8 secrets that are OK to keep from your spouse

If keeping a secret creates emotional distance between you and your partner, it should be spilled. These types of secrets can impact your spouse and your life together — a medical condition, financial or legal troubles, an addiction to drugs or alcohol, serious discontent in the relationship, goals that no longer correspond to those of your spouse (i.e., you’ve decided you’d rather devote energy to your career rather than having another child).

How Body Language Trumps IQ

When it comes to success, it’s easy to think that people blessed with brains are inevitably going to leave the rest of us in the dust, but social psychologist Amy Cuddy knows first-hand how attitude can outweigh IQ.

Cuddy suffered a car accident at the age of 19 which resulted in brain damage that took 30 points from her IQ. Before the crash Cuddy had an IQ near genius levels; her post-crash IQ was just average.

This woman’s way of telling people she is deaf

A DEAF woman has posted a photo of her new tattoo on the internet that she hopes will remind people not to talk into her left hear.

Top 10 facts about Sherlock Holmes

The huge success of Benedict Cumberbatch’s portrayal of the title role in Sherlock confirms that the great detective is as popular as ever. So here are some facts.



1. The only fictional character portrayed in more films than Sherlock Holmes is Dracula.

2. Sherlock Holmes Baffled was his first film, a 30-second silent spoof made in the US in 1900.

Top 10 facts you didn't know about March

1. March was the first month of the year in the ancient Roman calendar. January and February were thought too bleak to have names at all.

2. March is National Bed Month and Veggie Month in the UK.

3. It is also the month of The Great Daffodil Appeal, raising money for Marie Curie nurses.

Are YOU 'too busy' to spot the early warning signs of THIS silent killer?

ALARMING research has found that more women are ignoring life-threatening symptoms of ovarian cancer.

Between family, career and a social life, most mothers struggle to find time in the day for themselves.
But being too busy to look after yourself could be fatal, health experts warn.

New research has found an increasing number of women are neglecting to go to the doctor with potentially life-threatening symptoms.