IfynaBen Blog: February 2016

Monday, February 29, 2016

Baby girl names with great meanings

Baby names take on new meaning when you know the story behind them

What's in a name? Most parents today are not only looking for a distinct baby name that has a nice ring to it, they're also hoping to find a name that has story behind it. If you still have yet to pick the perfect name for your baby girl, you might be surprised to learn that many of the most popular — and the most unique — names for girls have a special meaning.

‘You Jerk! ‘

‘You are a moron and you just don’t get me! ‘

‘You are going to be miserable and stay alone all your life! ‘

Dear girls out there, do these words ring a bell? I think you CAN relate to these words pretty well as you end up using them more frequently than we guys do.

For women who truly have terrible taste in partners, “love hurts” is their theme song. The truth is that there are good people out there who want to treat you as the amazing person you are but there are certain dating patterns that tend to lead you to the wrong kind of partners.

1. Mistaking codependency for love

Part of the work I do with unhappy-in-love people who wind up on my couch is to teach them what a healthy relationship looks like. If,

A man weighing 175 pounds says he was forcibly removed from a flight because he weighed too much.

Illinois dentist Dan Nykaza was preparing for takeoff on an American Airlines Envoy regional flight departing from O'Hare to Salt Lake City when he and another passenger were booted from the aircraft to reduce the weight, reportsABC7 Chicago.

If you want to travel the world, it pays to be German. This comes courtesy of a new survey that ranks countries around the world on the amount of “travel freedom” accorded to their citizens. Travel freedom is defined as the number of countries where citizens can travel without needing a visa, or where they will receive a visa upon arrival.

In Sierra Leone, Pregnant Girls Don’t Have to Miss Out on Education

In an attempt to deal with a rise in sexual violence and teenage

pregnancies in Sierra Leone during the Ebola crisis, the country’s government has moved to address the issue through an alternative education initiative.

A39-year-old man and a 16-year-old girl have been charged with human trafficking after a teen was recruited into the sex trade earlier this month, Toronto police say.
Sex crimes investigators said in a statement Friday that on Feb. 1, a 16-year-old girl was forced into the sex trade by another 16-year-old girl.

How Couples Begin to 'Uncouple' in Their Marriage

"I don't know if I want to be married."

"I love him, but I am not sure if I'm 'in love' with him/her anymore."

"We don't have anything in common."

Sound familiar? No doubt they do. These are common feelings expressed by people who are in unhappy marriages and who feel adrift and unsure of what they want to do with their marriage. Many couples start to uncouple without realizing it. And, although couples are diverse and individualistic in their own right, the process in which couples become "uncoupled" bares similarities.

How Uncoupling Begins

The world's deadliest creature isn't what you'd expect. A 2014 graphic from Bill Gates' blog outlined the number of deaths per year related to animals. Scroll down and you'll see the biggest offender: mosquitoes.

Looking to shed a few pounds? According to science, some nighttime wine might just be the solution.

A study out of Washington State University from July 2015 showed that wine and weight loss go hand-in-hand, thanks to a substance called resveratrol. The compound, which is found in red wine, was shown to help convert "white fat" into "beige fat." (The latter is easier to burn off.)
As far as when it's best to sip on that vino, a separate 2012 study concluded that a late-night glass of wine curbed snacking, which, in turn, aided in weight loss (but, it should be noted that the study involved bees, not humans).

These adorable siblings are thought to be the first ‘black and white’ twins born in the UK - despite coming from the same egg.

Mum Libby Appleby, 37, was told that her unborn babies would look so similar they would need to be “marked with ink” to tell them apart.
But Libby was stunned when Amelia was born with dark skin, black hair and brown eyes - while her sister Jasmine has fair skin, blue eyes and mousey curls.
Amazingly, the siblings are genetically identical despite contrasting skin tones, and are believed to be first of their kind in the country.

Mum Libby Appleby, 37, from West Rainton, County Durham, said: 'When they were born, we were flabbergasted, even the doctors couldn’t believe it.

'They look like they’re different races.

'Amelia is the spitting image of her dad, while Jasmine is a mini version of me.’
Libby and partner of three years, engineer Tafadzwa Madzimbamuto, 40, found out she was pregnant in June 2014.

Have you been looking longingly at other people’s double bundles of joy? You can have twins too.

Other than the happiness they bring, having twins will give you the opportunity of raising both of them at the same time which allows for time to grow other parts of your life.

Here’s a look into tricks that can help you conceive twins.

Nyeri Town MP Esther Murugi has called on women to deny men conjugal rights and food until they register as voters.

Ms Murugi who has been in the limelight in the past for making controversial statements has also asked pastors not to allow followers in their churches unless the produce their national identity cards and the voters cards.

4 Types of People to Avoid Being Around When You’re Planning Your Wedding

Wedding planning is fun. Most brides-to-be and already married couples will tell you that. But, they’ll also tell you that it can, at times, be incredibly stressful. Things can go wrong. Plans can fall through and more money than expected often ends up being spent.

Unfortunately, not everything in life can be avoided, but there are some aspects that you at least can control; that being the people you allow in your inner circle.

One would think that the most common cause for couples parting ways was infidelity; however Health24 readers tell a different story.

These readers share their experience:

1. "We sleep in separate rooms"

Life is Short: 5 Rules to Live By Every Day

Life is short, but we can do small things to make the best of it. If you start to make adjustments to your daily routine, you’ll start to see powerful changes that will not only affect you but also those who come into contact with you. All it takes is one decision to transform your old way of doing things. Here are five rules for making each day your best one.

A Nigerian national was arrested while carrying cocaine valued at more than Sh5 million. Police say he had arrived at the Jomo Kenyatta International Airport from Lagos, Nigeria when he was stopped. Airport CID boss Joseph Ngisa said the suspect had inserted the pellets in his anal system. “He was put under observation and he has so far emitted 83 pellets of white powder that has been tested and found to be cocaine,” said Ngisa.

The arrest is the latest in a series of others that have happened in the past days.

Growing up in the only English speaking country in South America , and being Muslim did not make me stand out, I was part of a people of different ethnicities and religions that embraced each other and appreciated the differences. Most Guyanese see Muslims as generous people who share beef at a certain time of the year and give away food nightly for one month during Ramadan. As a child I have never heard the word terrorist or Terrorism

CITY GIRL: THE ANATOMY OF A MIDDLE-AGED MAN LAID BARE

A middle-aged man is a man between 45 and 60 years. A middle-aged man is a man in crisis. He is going through mid-life crisis and most don’t even know it yet.

The Malawian prison band nominated for a Grammy

Malawi prison band 'over the moon' despite Grammy miss

Malawi's Zomba Prison Project band has a unique

The Malawian prison band nominated for a Grammy was proud of its achievements despite missing out on winning the award, the country's head of jails said Tuesday.

"Although we had high expectations, we are not disappointed," Little Dimizulu Mtengano, acting chief commissioner for Malawi prisons and a key supporter of the prison music programme, told AFP.

How oversharing on Facebook is hurting relationships in Nairobi

Twenty nine year-old Shiro has that picture perfect life. She has a good job and is in your dream relationship. She and her man are inseparable.

And there is evidence in form of posts, selfies and videos all over her Facebook page to prove it. That getaway they took on Valentine’s weekend is well documented for all to see.

Chinese man staged his own funeral just to see how many people would turn up

Zhang Deyang, who never married or had kids, organised his own funeral and invited friends and family

A Chinese man has held a funeral for himself just to see how many people would turn up.

Zhang Deyang from northern Shandong province organised a mock ceremony – and told his friends and family – in the city of Rizhao earlier this month.

There are many uncomfortable truths about life and live that we could talk about, but we will limit it to 7 here, as that is probably all any person could be expected to handle in one sitting. Life is not perfect, things don't always go our way, and sometimes our heart get broken. Life owes you nothing, you actually have to work for your accomplishments. The people we like are not necessarily going to like us back, and we don't always live happily ever after.

With just Rs 3.86 allocated per day per child at government primary schools in Bihar, the khichdi served for the mid-day meal at Rajkiya Prathmik Vidyalaya in Araria’s Gokhlapur is a watery affair.

But on February 10, Kasheeda, a Class V student, made the mistake of asking for a second helping. The 12-year-old was allegedly hit, and when her father Mohammed Shagir protested, he too was allegedly kicked. Hours later, Shagir died.

KAMPALA, Uganda (AP) — The main opposition candidate for president in Uganda was briefly arrested late Thursday, his aide said, as vote counting started in presidential and parliamentary polls marred by the late arrival of voting materials.

10 Most Luxurious Hotels in the World

1.Emirates Palace, Abu Dhabi

Pregnancy -- a time of joy, of blooming.

A time to be waited on hand and foot, to become serene and at one with nature and to positively glow from the inside out in a way to show the rest of the world, without words, that yes you are expecting.
The Joys of pregnancy!
Ahhh, how lovely, how joyful.
How, well, a bit untrue really in my case.
I was looking forward so much to being pregnant, to developing a nice neat bump, a rosy pink flush and always getting the last seat anywhere.
There are some things I didn't quite bargain for though -- the weird things NO-ONE tells you about.

Managing your money in marriage

Relationship experts will tell you that money ranks high among issues that lead to marital discord. Indeed whereas marriage makes two become one flesh, little is said in regard to their also being financial partners. Sadly, it would appear many are not willing to trade their independence for interdependence and it is now common to find couples keeping financial details secret. “This is being unfaithful to each other in the area of finance,” says Crispus Mwanzia, an associate pastor and marriage counsellor in Nakuru. Mwanzia says couples who are not accountable to each other will often fail to arrive at a consensus when it comes to how their finances will be used. Sadly, one partner may be forced to shoulder the entire financial burden yet the other can chip in. See also: Business built on friendship thrives “I have witnessed such cases where both spouses are working but it is only one partner who meets their expenses while the other hardly accounts for his or her finances,” he says. According to Mwanzia, doing this has the net effect of bringing disharmony and robs the union of peace. He says unity can best be achieved when there is a consensus on how finances will be used. “A household needs money in order to operate and if both partners are working, there should be mutual agreement on what costs each partner will shoulder,” he says. According to personal banker, John Nyutu, couples who declare their finances to each other can pursue joint ventures together and lessen the family burden. He says going solo can expose the family to unwise decisions which will cause a huge dent to their resources. “When couples invest together, there is a higher likelihood of success and income generated will benefit both,” he says. Nyutu says partners who manage their finances independently are insensitive to the needs of the other and insists whether or not the spouse works, both should know what the family income is and keep track of money spent.

If the woman is a housewife, she has a right to know her husband’s income while he has a right to know how the money he gives the wife is spent,” he says. He also recommends that couples merge their lifestyles. This is especially specific to couples with income discrepancies where one person may want to splurge on something that another cannot afford. Doing this will prevent one spouse taking an unwise action, including borrowing money they cannot afford to pay, in order to cater to the other’s more elaborate tastes. Couples also need to consult each when making purchases in order to arrive at an understanding. Communication is key here and this channel of information should be kept open at all times. This will bring accountability and a monitoring of where the finances are going. Mwanzia adds that couples operating separate secret bank accounts are not honest or accountable to each other and have this mentality of being sole owners of everything that is in their name. He urges partners to eliminate financial tension in their union saying marriages are not “evolving experimental institutions” but investments that also need to be well run in order to be successful. See also: Business built on friendship thrives “Finances should, therefore, not be seen in terms of his or hers but ours. This is regardless of who between the two partners earns more than the other,” he says. And because many couples get into trouble primarily due to financial naivety, it is highly recommended that they learn some basic financial management and budgeting principles. This will not only teach them how to avoid debt and financial problems but also how to make smart choices when it comes to borrowing.

NAIROBI: Relationship experts will tell you that money ranks high among issues that lead to marital discord. Indeed whereas marriage makes two become one flesh, little is said in regard to their also being financial partners. Sadly, it would appear many are not willing to trade their independence for interdependence and it is now common to find couples keeping financial details secret. “This is being unfaithful to each other in the area of finance,” says Crispus Mwanzia, an associate pastor and marriage counsellor in Nakuru. Mwanzia says couples who are not accountable to each other will often fail to arrive at a consensus when it comes to how their finances will be used. Sadly, one partner may be forced to shoulder the entire financial burden yet the other can chip in. See also: Business built on friendship thrives “I have witnessed such cases where both spouses are working but it is only one partner who meets their expenses while the other hardly accounts for his or her finances,” he says. According to Mwanzia, doing this has the net effect of bringing disharmony and robs the union of peace. He says unity can best be achieved when there is a consensus on how finances will be used. “A household needs money in order to operate and if both partners are working, there should be mutual agreement on what costs each partner will shoulder,” he says. According to personal banker, John Nyutu, couples who declare their finances to each other can pursue joint ventures together and lessen the family burden. He says going solo can expose the family to unwise decisions which will cause a huge dent to their resources. “When couples invest together, there is a higher likelihood of success and income generated will benefit both,” he says. Nyutu says partners who manage their finances independently are insensitive to the needs of the other and insists whether or not the spouse works, both should know what the family income is and keep track of money spent.
Read more at: http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/lifestyle/article/2000191150/managing-your-money-in-marriage?articleID=2000191150&story_title=managing-your-money-in-marriage&pageNo=1

AIROBI: Relationship experts will tell you that money ranks high among issues that lead to marital discord. Indeed whereas marriage makes two become one flesh, little is said in regard to their also being financial partners. Sadly, it would appear many are not willing to trade their independence for interdependence and it is now common to find couples keeping financial details secret. “This is being unfaithful to each other in the area of finance,” says Crispus Mwanzia, an associate pastor and marriage counsellor in Nakuru. Mwanzia says couples who are not accountable to each other will often fail to arrive at a consensus when it comes to how their finances will be used. Sadly, one partner may be forced to shoulder the entire financial burden yet the other can chip in. See also: Business built on friendship thrives “I have witnessed such cases where both spouses are working but it is only one partner who meets their expenses while the other hardly accounts for his or her finances,” he says. According to Mwanzia, doing this has the net effect of bringing disharmony and robs the union of peace. He says unity can best be achieved when there is a consensus on how finances will be used. “A household needs money in order to operate and if both partners are working, there should be mutual agreement on what costs each partner will shoulder,” he says. According to personal banker, John Nyutu, couples who declare their finances to each other can pursue joint ventures together and lessen the family burden. He says going solo can expose the family to unwise decisions which will cause a huge dent to their resources. “When couples invest together, there is a higher likelihood of success and income generated will benefit both,” he says. Nyutu says partners who manage their finances independently are insensitive to the needs of the other and insists whether or not the spouse works, both should know what the family income is and keep track of money spent.
Read more at: http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/lifestyle/article/2000191150/managing-your-money-in-marriage?articleID=2000191150&story_title=managing-your-money-in-marriage&pageNo=1

isconsin, US: A couple have appeared in court accused of getting their nine-year-old daughter to drive them home after a boozy night out. Jason Roth and Amanda Eggert were charged with child neglect and recklessly endangering safety after their truck was pulled over by police . The court heard officers found the nine-year-old girl at the wheel and an 11-month-old baby in the back of the vehicle in Wisconsin, US. The little girl allegedly drove the vehicle for several miles and only narrowly avoided colliding with oncoming traffic. Fox29 reports that Deputy Jeff Hahn told the court: “As the nine-year-old exited the truck, it was still running and in drive when Mr Roth was sitting in the truck by himself. “He turned the ignition off and the truck began rolling backwards down the hill towards the river. I jumped into the truck to hit the brakes and put the truck in park.” He added both adults appeared to be extremely drunk and breath tests at the scene suggested the adults were three times over the legal drink-drive limit. The pair will face trial later this year.
Read more at: http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/lifestyle/article/2000190933/couple-got-too-drunk-over-the-weekend-then-allowed-nine-year-old-daughter-to-drive-them-home

Wisconsin, US: A couple have appeared in court accused of getting their nine-year-old daughter to drive them home after a boozy night out. Jason Roth and Amanda Eggert were charged with child neglect and recklessly endangering safety after their truck was pulled over by police .The court heard officers found the nine-year-old girl at the wheel and an 11-month-old baby in the back of the

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You can never understand why some men cheat. But to them, they do not count it as cheating since most of them know how to handle the situation. I mean handling two ladies in their lives is not a big deal to them.
“I find it such a cool idea having two ladies in my life. Once I am bored with one, I can always lean on the other,” he said as he boldly explained how he does it.
Of course he did not meet the two ladies at the same time. He had one before he could fall for the other one a year later. But question is how do they manage in this kind of relationship?

Becoming a millionaire by age 30 is possible — and you don't have to found the next Facebook or Snapchat, or win a Powerball jackpot, to do so.Plenty of regular people have done it. To help you reach the seven-figure mark, we rounded up nine pieces of advice from those who became millionaires at a very young age. We can't guarantee millionaire status, but doing these things won't hurt your odds:

Major drugs bust: Australia police seize meth-filled bras

Australian police discovered millions of dollars worth of drugs hidden inside a shipment of bras, part of what they said on Monday was the country's biggest ever liquid methamphetamine bust.

Officers found more than Aus$1 billion (US$712 million) of the lethally-addictive drug -- also known as ice -- in a series of raids.

More than a quarter of the stash was hidden in gel inserts used as padding for women's underwear.

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There were many things I swore I’d never do as a mom before I became one, most of which flew out the window once I actually had kids and realized how little I understood about parenting. There was one thing, though, that I’ve stuck to — something I swore I couldn’t, wouldn’t, and won’t ever do, and that’s spank my children. I won’t do it because I can’t. If I ever hit my kids, I might not be able to stop. In an instant, I could become the mother I swore I’d never be — my own.

Doctors and C-Suite executives are known for pulling in a pretty penny. The mean annual pay for anesthesiologists is $246,320, and chief executives earn an average of $180,700 a year.
But what do America's top earners have on the US president? Not much.

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The day I found out my husband had cheated on me was a very ordinary one. I had dropped the kids off at school, put in a load of laundry, and sat down at our kitchen table to tackle some long-overdue receipt filing. As I sorted through the crumpled stack, my mind wandered to what I’d order for dinner at the local restaurant my husband and I were heading to that night. The gnocchi, I thought. The gnocchi was always good. I was looking forward to a real conversation with Damien;* with three boys, it could feel like days went by without talking about anything other than soccer schedules, grades, and who let the dog onto the couch this time.

9 Moms share what labor really feels like — the good, the bad and the hilarious

For years, people have been trying to explain what labor is like to people who will never go through it. Men have hooked themselves up trying to experience it, and women have dangled the experience over the heads of misbehaving offspring. One recent study even claims that giving birth is as hard on a woman’s body as running a marathon.

If you’ve ever hit the magical six weeks postpartum mark with an air of excited expectancy only to still feel like you’ve been hit by a truck, you’re not alone. Researchers at the University of Michigan can back up your assertion that labor is not effing around.

A drug dealer who told a judge to go “suck his ****” after escaping jail has been ordered back to court, and now faces resentencing.
Daniel Sledden, 27, was given a suspended sentence by Judge Beverley

"You never get a second chance to make a first impression" may sound cliché. Did you know that during the first five minutes of your meeting with a man he has already formed an opinion of you?

Many times we wish for the right person to come into our lives and we don't understand why we can never seem to attract them. What exactly are men looking for in a woman? This is a question that seems to elude most single women.

You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question

Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everyone would like that—it’s easy to like that.

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

The Soothing Spot has Muzak, gurgling fountains, and a friendly local staff. By all accounts it is a legitimate, happy-ending-less massage parlor. No matter. A few months after opening in an upscale mall, management began photocopying ID cards and blanketed the waiting room with posters warning that untoward advances would not be tolerated.

“Customers were expecting a different type of massage,” a manager told me last summer. “A sexual kind.”

Why the grabby hands? Locals point to Chinese massage parlors and brothels exploding across the city:

In the US, restaurant servers work under a very different pay system than most people. Beyond a small hourly rate, their employers don’t pay their wages—customers do. Essentially, these workers have dozens of different bosses each day that individually decide how they should be compensated. And there’s not even a requirement, beyond social mores, that these de-facto bosses pay their servers anything at all.

SOMETIMES LIFE will throw something at you, like losing a job, the end of a relationship, a betrayal or discovering that things haven’t been as you thought they were.

These are the things that cause you to question your decisions, your judgement even your values. Suddenly every area of your life is challenged or compromised. This is what a crisis of confidence does.

It stops you in your tracks, pulls the rug of everything you

SOUTH AFRICANS are the most romantic long-distance lovers, according to new research. According to the statistics released by money transfer service World Remit, South Africans abroad send an average of £93 more to their loved ones for Valentine’s Day. They are followed closely behind by Indians, Indonesians and Nigerians who send on average £50, £46 and £24 more on February 14 respectively. The global data was based on an internal analysis of WorldRemit’s top 15 recipient countries in the months of January and February 2015.

4 Relationship Killers to Avoid at All Costs

Love is a beautiful thing, but it doesn’t always last forever. And the harsh truth is sometimes you’re the one to blame for the demise of your relationship. You may be sabotaging a perfectly good pairing by practicing destructive behaviors, and you may not even be aware of what you’re doing. Here are some relationship killers to steer clear of at all costs.

1. Jealousy

Weekly sex makes for happy couples, says study

A US study recently showed that having sex just once a week is all it takes for opoptimal happiness among married heterosexual couples and those in long-term relationships. The findings was based on surveys of more than 30,000 Americans collected over four decades, and are published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science. " Although frequent sex is associated with greater happiness, this link was no longer significant at a frequency of more than once a week," said lead researcher Amy Muise, a social psychologist and postdoctoral fellow at the University of Toronto-Mississauga. "

We have the heartache to thank for someone of the best music ever written and the most moving films ever made. But as profoundly affecting as a good ballad or weepy can be, there's not much practical advice to be taken from them.
In such an emotionally charged situation, we all make mistakes - and here's what she found to be the twelve most common traps we fall into, whether we're instigating the break-up, or on the receiving end.
They've been broken up with

1. Not accepting it's over

By: Eve Aldana,Elle

In case you forgot, Sunday is the annual buzzkill also known as Valentine's Day. Though there's never been a better time to be a single lady, there's something about a day dedicated to coupledom that can really take the wind out of our self-sufficient sails.

"But you're married…."

I hear it every time I'm sharing cocktails with single friends, swapping stories in the dim, loungy light I rarely find myself socializing in anymore, listening to tales about failed dates and messy breaks, and I think to myself, They are right:

It's Valentine's Day this weekend. Which means a weekend of enduring the sight of couples wearing cheesy coordinated outfits and men presenting stuffed teddy bears to girls, as well as the barrage of commemorative photos on social media. #truelove4eva

Funny how it's been years since this occasion was first given so much commercial value, and people still buy into the whole fanfare.

“I thought cancer was witchcraft, until I got it” Cancer patient narrates

“Some people will never understand what Cancer is all about, until it stares at them in the face. Sadly, I was in that class of people and today, I wish cancer awareness could spread more and save potential victims.” Judy, a breast cancer patient narrates while commemorating the worldwide Cancer Awareness day.
In a sad twist of events, Judy walks out of class every time a strange number calls her.

You hear a lot about things you shouldn’t let your kids do when you’re a parent, like watch too much television, eat too much sugar and leave their rooms a mess.
But what about the things that parents shouldn’t do? When it comes to raising financially savvy kids, as it turns out the secret may be just as much in what you do and say yourself as what you actually teach your kids.
Here are three things you should never let your kid hear you say when it comes to money, and why.

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